Estate Planning After Divorce or Remarriage

Melissa finalized a quiet divorce, remarried a year later, and assumed her “estate plan would adjust on its own” because she never wanted a courtroom fight. In Mission Hills, her will and account beneficiaries still pointed to the former spouse, while a new home purchase and blended-family expectations created competing assumptions about control. The first time a local institution asked for clean authority, the mismatch triggered emergency revisions and privacy exposure that should have been avoided, costing $214,580.

REVOCATION & OMITTED SPOUSE STATUTES: CA PROBATE CODE §6122 & §21610

Dissolution of marriage triggers CA Probate Code §6122, which by operation of law revokes all testamentary dispositions to a former spouse unless the instrument expressly provides otherwise. Upon remarriage, §21610 creates a statutory “omitted spouse” claim to an intestate share of the estate unless a valid waiver exists under §140-147. Enforcement logic utilizes the “clear and convincing” standard to establish intent regarding non-probate transfers, ensuring that asset distribution aligns with the current marital status and overcomes the evidentiary presumptions of Family Code §760.

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Under California Law, divorce and remarriage are not “personal events” in an estate plan; they change default outcomes unless you update the instruments that control disposition and authority. Certain gifts and fiduciary nominations to a former spouse are revoked by operation of law after dissolution under Prob. Code § 6122, and nonprobate transfers must be aligned through the controlling transfer rules under Prob. Code § 5600.

Divorce and remarriage: the planning moment most people under-document

Transitioning citrus and vineyard rows in Escondido San Diego representing the realignment of a trust after life changes.

I have practiced in San Diego for more than 35 years, and the consistent basis of avoidable trouble after divorce or remarriage is not “bad intent,” it is outdated governance that no longer matches real life. In La Jolla, a client’s revocable trust named the right people for the first marriage, but the amendment history and restatement discipline never caught up after a second marriage and new real estate. Under California Law, the amendment method matters as much as the words, and enforceability often turns on whether the update followed the trust’s procedure or the statutory default under Prob. Code § 15401. As a CPA, I also watch valuation and basis awareness closely, because a “family update” can quietly change capital gains exposure and reporting posture later.

Strategic Insight (San Diego): Blended families in Rancho Santa Fe often create a polite silence that becomes a documentation problem later, especially when a new spouse assumes joint control while adult children assume legacy protection. The local nuance is privacy: people delay updates to avoid difficult conversations, and the plan drifts in the background. The preventative strategy is a discreet governance reset that aligns fiduciary roles, beneficiary designations, and title in one sitting, so the record supports intent if a dispute arises under Prob. Code § 5600.

Why San Diego and California Law change control decisions after divorce or remarriage

San Diego County combines high-value real property with layered financial accounts, and that mix punishes ambiguity. After a divorce, the legal effect is not limited to “who inherits”; it can change who can act, who is presumed revoked, and what third parties will accept when authority must be proved under Prob. Code § 6122.

  • Old beneficiary designations that contradict the “new family” narrative and invite conflict
  • Fiduciary roles that no longer fit the practical reality of access, trust, and discretion
  • Title drift after refinance or a new purchase, leaving governance split across documents
  • Carrying costs and maintenance decisions on a San Diego home while authority is being questioned
  • Privacy exposure when updates are rushed and documents are circulated too broadly

This is general information under California Law; specific facts change strategy. Remarriage can also create a predictable pressure point: the “new spouse” and “children from a prior marriage” may both assume protection, and omitted-spouse rules can become a real risk if planning was not updated with clear intent under Prob. Code § 21610.

My CPA advantage is not theory; it is discipline: we document what changed, confirm the asset list and titles, and model the long-term posture so the plan remains coherent and defensible years later. When the focal point is control and continuity, the right update sequence can preserve discretion while reducing the chance that anyone later frames your changes as “sudden” or “unclear.”

The Immediate 5: The questions that determine whether your post-divorce plan holds up

After divorce or remarriage, the first risk is assuming the “new chapter” automatically rewrites the old paperwork. These are the initial questions I use to evaluate timing, documentation discipline, and whether your current plan would withstand a skeptical review without pulling your family into unnecessary exposure.

Practitioner’s Note: In Del Mar, a client updated a will but never updated the beneficiary forms at San Diego County Credit Union, and the outdated designation stayed in place through a new marriage. The diagnostic signal was a simple mismatch between the account record and the client’s intent. The corrective move was a coordinated update across the controlling instruments using Prob. Code § 5600.

What exactly did your divorce judgment require, and did your estate plan get conformed to it?

The practical question is whether your updated plan is consistent with enforceable obligations and the real allocation of assets after the marital settlement. I look for alignment between the judgment, title, beneficiary designations, and fiduciary roles so you are not accidentally promising one outcome while your documents deliver another. Your plan should read as one coherent governance system, not a stack of unrelated updates.

Which assets transfer by beneficiary form, and have those forms been updated in the right order?

Many high-value assets transfer outside a will or trust simply because a beneficiary designation controls, and those forms tend to survive until they are expressly changed. The risk is not only an unintended recipient; it is an avoidable dispute about what you “meant” when the written designation says something else. I focus attention on sequencing so the record supports the plan cleanly.

Have you re-evaluated fiduciaries for access, discretion, and blended-family pressure?

Divorce and remarriage change more than relationships; they change who can realistically act when pressure is high. The right fiduciary must have access to records, the judgment to hold boundaries, and the discretion to keep administration private. If the wrong person is named, the plan may function on paper but fail operationally in real San Diego life.

Did you address new spouse protection and legacy protection as two separate, documented goals?

A blended-family plan works when it states the intent clearly and then implements it through title alignment, trust structure, and beneficiary designations that match the intent. When this is not done, the story becomes vulnerable: adult children worry about dilution, and a new spouse worries about security. The goal is to remove ambiguity before anyone has an incentive to challenge the plan’s fairness.

Is your San Diego real property titled to match the plan, with carrying-cost authority clearly assigned?

A home in San Diego can create immediate financial friction: insurance renewals, HOA payments, repairs, and access decisions do not wait for a perfect moment. The controlling question is whether the plan and the deed tell the same story, and whether your fiduciary has clear authority to act without over-sharing documents. This is where privacy and practical control are inseparable.

A natural granite fissure and succulent at Mt. Helix in San Diego symbolizing estate planning after a divorce.

The cleanest post-divorce update is coordinated, not piecemeal: we treat your plan like a control system and confirm the parts that third parties actually use. That includes your beneficiary designations, title, fiduciary powers, and the documents you would not want broadly circulated. When done correctly, the update reduces ambiguity and preserves discretion for your family.

Procedural realities that determine whether your changes stay enforceable and private

Evidence & Documentation Discipline

If your update is questioned later, the issue is rarely “what you intended” and almost always “what the records prove.” I build documentation discipline around signatures, timelines, and record integrity so your file is coherent if reviewed under evidentiary standards such as the business-record foundation in Evid. Code § 1271.

  • Transfer documents vs actual control/ownership
  • Valuation support vs later audit/challenge risk
  • Timeline consistency for planning vs creditor/liability exposure
  • Tie to California compliance and defensibility

Divorce and remarriage create “layering,” and layering is where amendment history breaks down. A trust update must follow the correct amendment method and be preserved in a way that a later reader can authenticate without guessing, which is why I anchor the update sequence to Prob. Code § 15401.

Negotiation vs Transaction-Challenge Reality

If a transfer is challenged, timing and documentation become the basis of scrutiny rather than background context. The practical posture is to ensure that the “why” and the “how” are supported by the record so your changes are not re-framed as improper pressure or an avoidable transfer under Civ. Code § 3439.04.

  • What changes once a transaction is challenged
  • Documentation, timing, valuation, compliance posture
  • Procedural reality only

Complex Scenarios

Digital assets and cryptocurrency access planning, no-contest clause boundaries, and community property control are where post-divorce plans fail quietly. Where this becomes relevant is when a blended-family plan changes control and someone claims retaliation or coercion; no-contest enforceability has defined boundaries under Prob. Code § 21311.

Community property and spousal control issues also require clarity about who can manage, encumber, or change the character of assets during the marriage, while digital access planning must give a fiduciary lawful pathways to obtain account content and control. In California, spousal management rules in Fam. Code § 1100 often intersect with fiduciary digital access mechanics under Prob. Code § 870.

Lived experiences after divorce or remarriage

Darrell H.
“After my divorce, I was worried that my old plan still gave my former spouse too much control. Steve helped me rebuild the documents and the beneficiary designations in a way that matched my life and kept it private. The practical outcome was clarity and a plan that felt stable instead of fragile.”
Lauren Z.
“When I remarried, I wanted to protect my new spouse without creating conflict with my children from the first marriage. Steve organized the updates, explained the tradeoffs clearly, and tightened the documentation so it would hold up later if anyone questioned it. The result was a calmer family posture and governance that finally matched our reality.”

California statutory framework and legal authority

Statutory Authority
Description
This statute governs revocation of certain dispositions and nominations to a former spouse after dissolution or annulment. It materially matters in San Diego planning because divorce can change default outcomes and fiduciary control unless updates are handled with timing discipline.
This statute governs effectiveness of nonprobate transfers under written instruments such as beneficiary designations. It matters for San Diego clients because many assets pass by form, and mismatches between forms and planning documents can create avoidable conflict and privacy exposure.
This statute governs revocation and amendment of a revocable trust, including default methods when the trust instrument controls the procedure. It matters in San Diego because enforceable post-divorce or post-remarriage updates require method compliance to preserve clarity and defensibility.
This statute governs the rights of an omitted spouse in certain circumstances, including potential shares when a spouse is unintentionally left out. It matters for San Diego blended-family planning because remarriage can create predictable claims unless intent is documented with precision.
This statute governs the business records exception to the hearsay rule for admitting records into evidence. It matters in San Diego because documentation discipline and record integrity often determine whether an update is defensible if later questioned.
This statute governs when a transfer may be voidable based on intent or constructive factors under California voidable transaction law. It matters for San Diego estate planning because timing and documentation of post-divorce transfers can be scrutinized if challenged.
This statute governs enforceability boundaries and exceptions for no-contest clauses. It matters in San Diego because blended-family updates must reduce contest incentives while staying within enforceable limits.
This statute governs management and control of community personal property and related spousal authority rules. It matters for San Diego planning because remarriage can change control assumptions, and unclear authority can destabilize governance and timing decisions.
This statute is part of California’s fiduciary access to digital assets framework and governs lawful access pathways in defined circumstances. It matters in San Diego because access failures can create operational delays and privacy risk unless authority is planned and documented.

CTA: Reset control after divorce or remarriage, before the record sets the outcome

If your family structure changed and you are not certain your will, trust, titles, and beneficiary designations tell one consistent story, I can help you restore control with a discreet, compliance-first update. The process is simple in concept: we identify what changed, align the instruments that actually govern transfer and authority, and preserve privacy by keeping documentation tight and purposeful.

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With more than 35 years of experience in California estate planning and estate administration, Mr. Bliss focuses on structuring enforceable estate plans, guiding fiduciaries through court-supervised proceedings, resolving creditor and notice issues, and coordinating asset management to support compliant, timely distributions and reduce fiduciary risk.